Do you need a coach? Yes and no. Are there times in business that you don't need a coach or mentor? Maybe. Dive into this episode to find out more.
Do you need a coach? Yes and no. Are there times in business that you don't need a coach or mentor? Maybe. Dive into this episode to find out more.
On today's business contradictions. Let's talk about you need a coach. Now I have very strong feelings about this, actually in both ways, and here's what I'm going to say, and I will never not have a coach or mentor, but I don't believe that you need to always have one that you're working with one on one. And let me explain At the beginning, I absolutely needed somebody to work with one on one, and there have been moments in my business where I've needed to work with someone one on one, but most of the time, putting myself in a mastermind, putting myself in a container where there is community and there is constant upleveling happening by other people, is a great place for me to be, because I feed off of that energy. Now, the reason I think old me needed a coach was because that energy actually defeated me, because I couldn't understand how everybody was getting where they were getting and I wasn't. It was a very lack mentality, and so I'm always going to try to be real with you guys when I'm talking about these things, and I do think that there is this beautiful thing about having someone understand you and know you on a deeper level when it comes to coaching. But also, what I have found can also happen is you can outgrow your coach, and that has been as me as the coach, because I have seen this happen and because I've put myself in so many containers, because I've had so many mentors, I don't want to necessarily outgrow my coach. I want my coach to always be evolving and I want my coach to always be growing, and that is one thing that I have done for myself. I refuse to remain stagnant, I refuse to remain the same, I refuse to not grow. And this morning I was looking at my memories on Facebook and I celebrated last year that all these people I have a really good retention rate and those same people have once again renewed six months in full in my inner circle, or they just if they're monthly, they just keep paying. And this is a beautiful thing, and I'm not sitting here patting myself on the back going good job, chrissy. It's just that I keep stretching myself. Friends, I do it for myself, but I also do it for my clients.
Speaker 1:To me it is so important as someone who has been and worked with so many coaches and mentors. Thank you, I don't. I would be okay if my clients outgrew me, but there are parts in my business that I am never gonna stop growing right my mindset, my emotional intelligence, my leadership those are never gonna stop. I'm never gonna stop growing and pushing myself when it comes to visibility, I'm never gonna stop. And so I think it's important that when you find a coach or a mentor, that they're always growing and I'm not saying that they always have to be, they don't have to be in a million containers, but they should be pushing themselves consistently and their growth should be shown. But also they should be talking about where they've been and how they got to where they got, and also they should be sharing client results. I think it's very, very important.
Speaker 1:There are moments in my business where I've taken a break from having a one-on-one coach, and I do believe that sometimes I just get to listen to myself and go with my own gut. I'll never forget I've had coaches before in Voxer and I would voice note out what I wanted to do and what I was on the fence about. Before they even got back to me, I'd already decided and I'd moved. And that's when I realized okay, I move super fast, I don't. I will listen to guidance, but I don't need guidance. I don't need handheld anymore Like I used to and I think earlier on in my business, I was so unsure, I was so indecisive, I was so like I don't know if this is the right move.
Speaker 1:I just didn't have the confidence and the belief and the certainty that I have now. And it's funny because one of my favorite mentors ever I was in her mastermind for four years. I met some of my best friends there. She said if you don't have the belief and the certainty now, borrow mine until yours comes. And this is the thing that I share with my clients all the time. If you don't believe it yet, borrow my belief, because I believe in you until your belief shows up. And it is one of the most important things that I could ever do for my clients, but also them. Believing in my belief until they can believe in their own is huge. And so there is this again duality that, yes, I do believe.
Speaker 1:Most people do need coaches. I do believe that most people need in some type of some type of coaching where they can get someone on one, or accountability. That's one reason that the visible inner circle is very intimate and I keep it very small because, along with the group and the community, and they are like the way they support each other just makes me like, makes my eyes open, just makes me like, makes my eyes like tear up right now just thinking about it. But I love being able to support them on a one-on-one basis too. I love that they get both in this container. This container is so hybrid. Because of that and you know, I know this episode is about you need a coach. But also one of the things that I am gonna pat myself on the back for this, because I have put myself in so many containers as a client. I am very strong about what I like and what I dislike and then I bring that to the containers that I'm in. Like I literally create containers that I've always wanted to have. I create containers that I wish I had early on in my journey. That would have supported me early on in my journey. Omnivip, just one thing, like these are amazing containers.
Speaker 1:I'm not just saying because I created them, but because I took the parts and pieces of where I have paid and put myself in. I've spent over six figures in mentorship, in training, like much more than most people pay for a college degree. Right, and I will not stop. Every year I will invest in something else. You know, this year I spent well I would say 2023, I spent probably about $40,000 between my certification, between mini minds, masterminds, and I did a year-long membership. That's $1,000 a month. So this, to me, is very, very important. Again, I'm OK if my clients outgrow me, but I'm not stopping. So it's going to take a lot, it's gonna take a lot, and that isn't to again, that isn't to be like you know, ha ha ha. You can't outgrow me, because that's not it at all, because I want my clients to grow. And if they did outgrow me, I would be okay with that. But when you're constantly pushing yourself and you don't lay stagnant and you don't stop, that's a hard thing to accomplish. And so I also want to say this, because I think this is important too.
Speaker 1:Going back to outgrowing, because we talk about levels a lot, we talk about hierarchies a lot, we talk about high end and words like that. And I do want to be very, very clear that I don't put anyone on a pedestal, and I have in the past and this was something that I had to work through and I had to work on but I used to put all my coaches, mentors, on a pedestal and it was a huge disservice to them and a huge disservice to me. And when I finally realized we're all just human and I started actually hiring my peers, the people I was inside of Masterminds with, I started hiring them because I saw their brilliance and I saw that they had expertise in an area that I didn't. And that's also the way that I look at my clients. Outgrowing them doesn't necessarily mean I know more than them. I may know more about them, or I may know more than them in a certain subject, right In a certain thing, but I believe we all have gifts and, for example, my clients have.
Speaker 1:One is knowledgeable on all the things about menopause. I don't know either about menopause, right. One is very knowledgeable about loving your body and body image Again, I don't know a lot about that. Right. One is very knowledgeable in motor sports marketing and talks about visibility Again, not my thing. I couldn't tell you how to get sponsorship right. That's not my thing.
Speaker 1:Another is really good with helping homeschoolers get their kids to college. Again, I've gotten two kids to college, but I don't even have an ounce of the knowledge that she has because I also haven't homeschooled my kids and have one that helps their clients with layoffs and helps corporations with layoffs Again, not something I'm familiar with. I've actually never even been laid off, so I can't even talk about the experience, right. So these are all different. We have I have a stager, someone who is great at staging. I have someone who is great at oh my gosh, I'm having a brain fart moment right now One that is great in stormwater marketing. I have one that is an amazing life coach, right, and she also has so much other experience in her background, and so when I look at all of them collectively, I'm just like mind blown because they're all unique, beautiful and strong and they have a strength that I do not have.
Speaker 1:And so I think when we put people on a pedestal or when we put people on levels, it's very and this is crazy, since, you know, I call myself the disability queen but it's very like hierarchy, like the crown right, like you have queen and king, you have princes, princes and princesses, and you have Duchess and you have all these different things right. And so I do not see business like that. And one of the things that I prioritized over the last probably 18 months was hiring my peers, joining my peers masterminds, because, again, not only learning, because they have an expertise that I do not, but also how do you run your containers? How does this feel? And so, again, I've totally went outside of the path of coaching, but I think it's really, really important to talk about all the aspects and all the ways that I feel about that.
Speaker 1:Will I ever not have a coach or be in some type of mastermind, inner circle container? No, I will always be in something because I feed off that energy. There are times I don't need it and there are times that I don't check in and there are times that I don't ask questions and there are times that I was gonna say I don't go to calls, but I actually do. I actually always, if I can make it, I am always there and it's always a priority to me. But it doesn't mean it's not valuable, it doesn't mean it's not worth it if I don't have questions and I don't hop into Vox or Telegram and ask questions. The value is still there because it's that honest, knowing that it's always there. It's always there, it's always available to me, and so that is a beautiful, beautiful thing. And before I forget, another client is an expert at helping you be an advocate for your kids, and I think that is also a really truly beautiful, beautiful thing.
Speaker 1:So do you need a coach? That's up to you. If you are so decisive, like you, can make a decision, you can move fast. You don't need hand-holding, you don't need direction. You know what you want, you go after it, you move, you take risks. You get uncomfortable? No, not necessarily Do. I believe you should always be up-leveling your emotional intelligence yes. Your personal power yes. Your marketing knowledge yes. Your visibility knowledge yes, because those things are gonna continue. And your sales knowledge, because those things are always gonna continue to grow your business.
Speaker 1:You get to decide do you need the extra help and do you need the extra support? And maybe it's not in a one-on-one situation, maybe it is in more of a group container, and if you ever have a question about what I offer that looks like that, feel free to reach out. But you get to decide. Do you need a coach? Is a coach going to support you? I would not be where I'm at today without the coaches, whether or not I would ever work with them again or not I would not be where I am in this moment. I have taken something away. I have learned what to do, and I've also learned a lot of what I would never do, and that's okay, because that's all growth, that's all learning and it's all perfect for what I needed in that moment.