When Social Media Feels Heavy: How to Serve Others & Protect Your Energy

You Don’t Owe the Algorithm Your Exhaustion. This episode is full of honest strategies for navigating the days when life feels heavy and social media drains more than it gives.

If you’ve ever felt like your launches flopped, your energy dipped, or you just weren’t yourself online, this episode will help you shift out of your own head by serving others, taking simple action, and protecting your energy.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Navigating Life's Challenges
• 2:23 The Power of Serving Others
• 4:54 Taking Action and Finding Balance
• 7:45 Protecting Your Energy in a Digital World

Transcript

0:12

Sometimes life is just life-ing. Sometimes the world is a really sad, distracting, frustrating, hurtful, I don't even know all the words that we can come up with, place, right? Sometimes our launches flop, sometimes our energy dips, sometimes you just do not feel like the best version of you. And I get this because it's like the last thing that you want to do is show up for other people. And I found one of the most magical ways that almost always has cured everything that I'm feeling in life or business. If I turn it around and do this one thing, And this may be a quote, but I remember hearing something years ago, like, if you want more money, give more money. If you want more time, give more time. Like was something like that. Like whatever you want more of, you get to give more of. And I remember early in my business when it felt like nothing was working and it felt like everything was going the wrong direction. I remember I started doing these 15 minute phone calls. They were free. I promised not to pitch anyone when I did them. And I did them because I just wanted to give back and I wanted to serve other people and take my mind off the fact that I felt like my business wasn't growing to the level that it should. I had no idea what was in store for me by doing that. I booked so many of those free 15 minute phone calls and I didn't pitch like I didn't invite them to anything. I didn't sell them actually probably about 80 % of those calls. The people asked me how they could continue to work with me. It was magical because again, it took my mind off of me and what was going on in my life and my problems and all the things I was allowing to consume me. And it was focusing on somebody else and serving and supporting someone else. Serving pulls you out of your own freaking head. It pulls you out of your own freaking way. It shifts that focus from like, what's wrong with me? to what does this person need right now? How can I support this person right now? And I think sometimes we think, you know, it's gotta be this big thing or I need to go, you know, volunteer at the food bank, you know, five days a week, which is also a great idea by the way. But it doesn't have to be that extravagant if that's not convenient for you or you don't have the capacity for that. Small acts also count. I remember when I would notice people on social media and I would notice that that no one had commented on their posts. And maybe that post was three hours ago. I remember just going and commenting on people's posts. I was like seeking out people that had no comments on their posts and just like it was kind. Because number one, I knew I was starting a ripple effect, right? Because somebody has to be first. but also it just felt freaking amazing. It felt good to give somebody else a little bit of attention, to help somebody else's piece of content come up in the newsfeed. You know, another thing that I've done when I felt down and out besides those 15 or the three 15 minute phone calls was I've shouted people out. Like when I felt like I sucked or I felt like I wasn't good enough or I felt like no one wanted to work with me. Yes, I have felt all these things in case you were wondering, but I'll never forget in 2019. No, it's 2020. Like shouting out somebody that got. featured on Yahoo for like top, I don't know, I think it was top 10 mindset coaches or something. And I shouted them out. And then all this like goodness came back to me and that's not the reason I did it. I had no intention of anything like that happen. I remember sending, going through Harrow, which is Help a Reporter Out, and I remember seeing like PR opportunities for other people. And like every day I would go through and I was like, this would be such and such would be perfect for this. And I would send it to them again with zero expectation just to help them get a little free PR and some visibility. It does not have to be grand, but I am telling you above anything else, this is one of the number one ways that I get over when things don't go my way or when I don't feel good enough or when I feel like I'm about to quit. I serve other people. The second thing is that I take action. You know, I remember that quote. I feel like I'm gonna say a lot of quotes. I may butcher it, but it's fine. That quote like worries like sitting in a rocking chair. You're moving but you're literally going nowhere Stress can be very similar to that, right? And so the thing that cures worry is action and so taking action and also giving yourself grace That does not mean that action means you have to hustle which I've been there and I've done that it doesn't solve the problem But I've taken action because sitting around worrying about something that may or may not happen or that did happen Is it going to fix it? Right? It really is taking action. So it's like, can we serve? Then give yourself a permission to step back or go do something that fills your cup. You know, there's always balance, like action that creates momentum and then add in some grace to refill your own cup. Going for a walk, watching your favorite show, like doing something that makes you laugh. I realized like the cast of Dancing with the Stars this season is like I love so many of those people on there and I haven't watched the show in I don't know eight, nine years. And I'm like, I am so excited to like watch this show. Like I cannot wait. And it just brought me so much joy seeing people learn to do something or get better maybe if they already knew how to dance, right and just like competing each other and have the best time. but you can go on a walk, you can read something fun, you can cook, you can spend your time offline. And if right now in this moment and you're listening to this episode, if you listen to it live, then the answer is yes. But if you're listening to this episode and things just feel heavy online and it feels like everybody's just at each other's throats online, get offline. You wanna go post, go post, don't scroll. Or post and don't scroll, but go to the feeds that you know are going to bring you joy. Go to the feeds specifically instead of scrolling down news feeds, but go to the people who bring you joy, who bring you light, who take you to a different place and help you see something in a different perspective. It's like we want to escape the noise, right? Because negativity sometimes feels inescapable. And I'll be honest, especially if you're this real time, just the fighting online, it hurts. It just hurts. I just feel so much anger online. And it doesn't feel good to me. And I don't want that, right? But it's like, especially when you're on Facebook or you see people you know like at each other's throats like fighting. It's just it's not healthy. And so if it feels inescapable taking a break is the best medicine right filling your cup protecting your energy muting accounts logging out for the day setting boundaries. You do not owe the algorithm your exhaustion. It's not it's It's not worth it, right? So instead of spiraling, what's one way I can make someone else's day better right now? Instead of doom scrolling, pick like one uplifting action. Can you send a voice note? Can you send like a card, like write out an actual card, right? Can you share a resource? Can you post some gratitude? Instead of pushing harder, can you step away and trust? that rest can also be really productive. Serving others when you're not at your best or you're not feeling your best isn't fake. as long as you're not doing it to get something out of it, meaning I hope they buy from me, right? That's never why I've done it. I have done it truly with the thought of the servant's heart. And so it's not fake, it's medicine. and you can pour out what you can, but then you've got to go fill your cup because that balance is how you keep going. I know being an online business owner, marketing your business online, we're online maybe a lot more than we want to be. And so we see these things and they're painful and they hurt and they suck and it's not always easy to let it go. But I'm telling you. Let social media go for the day. Walk away. If you listen to one of my past episodes, one of my really good clients said, social media has a feed and you consume content. If we're worried about what we're putting in our diets, right? If we're worried about what we're putting in our mouth, why aren't we worried about the food, the feed, the consumption that we are putting in our brains and our minds and through our emotions putting them through, right? Take care of all the parts of your health and mental health. And that means if social media is not feeling like it's serving you right now and it feels really heavy, walk away. Walk away. Because the more you can walk away, the more you put yourself in... self-care mode and fill your cup, the more you're going to be able to help other people in whatever it is that you do. Consuming a bunch of negative social media is not helping you do that. So I challenge you, if social media feels really heavy right now, post, then walk away. Take the apps off your phone. Log out every time. Make it more difficult for you to get right back on so that you can protect your energy and your mind and your future.